With the world population estimated at around 7.7 Billion in April 2019 it is only going to keep growing. It took 200,000 years for the population to reach of the planet to reach 1 Billion. While it only took 200 years for the population to jump from 1 Billion to 7.7 Billion. According to Wikipedia by 2050 the population will reach 10 Billion. This is the world you live in. Or is it?
The truth of the matter is we have 7.7 Billion people each living in their own worlds. They are each unique individuals with their own beliefs, customs, fears and ideas of how their world should be. No two individuals are the same just like no two snow flakes are the same. Each individual has control over their own lives. Sure you give away some control because there are just functions that are better handled by others. In exchange you pay these individuals to take care of these responsibilities for you. You pay taxes so that their will be individuals to take care of all the nasty business of running the government. With all its different departments and offices. In exchange they maintain the roads, pick up your trash, provide for the Police and Fire Departments, Provide the Military with all its different branches, just to name a few. But you have control over your daily life.
It is your Spiritual right to have choices. But most people are afraid to make choices because there is some kind of fear holding them back. They stay in unhealthy relationships because they are afraid of what would happen to themselves and their children if they dissolve the relationship. They stay in a job they are unhappy with because they are afraid they will not be able to find another one. Everyone lives with some kind of fear in their life. Fear is the main motivating factor out there. You would be surprised on how much control others have over you though fear. Fear just seems to be a part of life and there is no way to get around it.
Yet I started the last paragraph that it is your Spiritual right to have choices. How can you have choices when there are all those fears out there. The only way that you can exercise your choices is to overcome whatever fears that are standing in the way of your choices. Then and only then can you exercise your choices and move forward into the life you desire to live. The easiest way I found to remove these fears is though love.
You have to believe that there is a Higher Source and that the Higher Source loves you and only has your best interest at heart. Once you realize that you are loved by the Higher Source you can start to love yourself.
Let my give you an example from my own life. One day one of my Bosses stated that he had more confidence in me then I had in myself. That opened my eyes and lead my down the road to building up my self confidence. After all if he had confidence in me then I should have confidence in myself. From then on as I tried to different things and found that I had no problem learning how to do them. My confidence grew more and more until now I feel the confidence to do anything I set my mind to.
Did it take a matter of time for me to build up my confidence? Sure it did. Is it going to take you time trust In the Higher Source? Yes it will but over time as you start to trust the Higher Source in little things you will find that he is very reliable and is with you always. You will began to trust him more and more. And one day you will realize how much more you love yourself because of the love you are receiving though the Higher Source. Then you will start to see the circumstances in you life will began to change. Maybe you can repair your relationship or decide to end it on a good note where you move on to a different relationship but are still friends with your old mate. Maybe you will find a new job or the circumstances at your current job change to where you are now happy where you work.
Once you have the love of the Higher Source flowing though you and you start to love yourself you will find it easier to love others. You will realize that other people are all Spiritual Beings wearing an earth suit. And that they are only reacting out of their fears. To tell you the truth, once you start to walk in this love you will find that most people will see the good in you and will return their goodness to you. Then you will have the freedom to make any choice you want to make. Trusting that the Higher Source is with you and will give you anything you desire.